The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck Review
Book Review: The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck
Past Marker Manson
Summarised in one quote
'True happiness occurs merely when you find the problems you enjoy having and enjoy solving.' (p.32)
Mark Manson's The Subtle Fine art of Not Giving a F*ck is a sagacious volume (a word that has rapidly run upward the ladder of my favourite adjectives of all time).
Manson presents an unrelenting array of counterintuitive arguments supported past profound case studies and analogies. His best ideas aren't hidden amongst pages and pages of high-minded prose or onerous self-indulgence. He says information technology right to your confront and observes your reaction with a raucous laugh followed by a comforting pat on the back.
Recommended if you desire to:
- Pursue the destruction of all personal suffering and find why that'south incommunicable
- Build cocky awareness around the kind of lifestyle that volition brand y'all happy in the long term
- Reduce the level of stress and anxiety y'all have around goals, performance and power
- Understand why we tend towards giving too many f*cks about problems that don't matter and give as well few to those that do
Stories to Remember
Most non-fiction books utilise storytelling to hit domicile their points. Here is a selection of my favourite anecdotes from this volume, and where to find them.
Desire the Hurting (p.9)
Do y'all know what sucks? Obsessing over what yous don't have. Manson makes the compelling observation that the desire for a positive experience is in itself, a negative experience. 'The more you desperately desire to be rich, the more poor and unworthy yous feel, regardless of how much money you actually make. The more than y'all desperately want to exist sexy and desired, the uglier you come to meet yourself, regardless of your bodily physical appearance. The more y'all badly want to be happy and loved, the lonelier and more than afraid you become, regardless of those who surround you.'
So if you shouldn't pursue positive experiences how can yous e'er experience happiness? Mark's answer: pursue the negative. 'The hurting you pursue in the gym results in better all-effectually health and free energy. The failures in business organisation are what pb to a meliorate agreement of what'due south necessary to be successful. Being open with your insecurities paradoxically makes y'all more confident and charismatic around others. The pain of honest confrontation is what generates the greatest trust and respect in your relationships. Suffering through fears and anxiety is what allows you to build courage and perseverance.'
Lawyer up! (p.15)
It's easy to get confused about the subtlety of the fine art of not giving a fock. This book doesn't advocate indifference. Information technology advocates doing what'south right in the face of arduousness.
Manson illustrates this with a story of his mum getting scammed out of a large chunk of money. He could have just shrugged his shoulders, accepted that's the way the globe works and continued watching the latest serial on Netflix. Instead he thought, 'No screw that Mom. We're going to lawyer the fuck up and go later this asshole. Why? Because I don't give a fuck.' The art of not giving a fuck isn't about being blah well-nigh everything. It'southward most non caring for adversity in the confront of achieving your goals.
Responsibility and fault (p.98)
It'southward time to define the difference between fault and responsibility, and Manson does this wonderfully. Whilst it's common for responsibility to follow error (if I crash my machine into you lot, it's both my mistake and my responsibility to recoup you), in that location are also many problems that we aren't at fault for, nonetheless nosotros are still responsible.
'For example, if yous woke upwards one day and there was a newborn baby on your doorstep, information technology would not be your mistake that the baby had been put there, simply the baby would be your responsibility. You take to cull what to practise. And whatever you end up choosing (keeping it, getting rid of it, ignoring information technology, feeding information technology to a pit balderdash), there would be bug associated with your option-and you lot would exist responsible for those also.' The punchline is that there is no employ blaming other people for your state of affairs. Just you are responsible for it. If your boss sucks, your favourite TV show gets cancelled or your girlfriend cheats on y'all (a personal story from Mark), only you are responsible for your feelings and reactions. What practise you lot choose?
As e'er, these brief anecdotes cover a small fraction of the themes explored in the full book. If you similar what you're reading, consider buying the volume!
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